If you are a busy single mom, the “mom” comes first, and then “busy.”
The part about you being single somehow always gets left behind.
There are some creative ways to plan dates if you’re a busy single mom that let you get to know someone without having to introduce them to your children too soon.
Look for what is around you
One of the best ideas is to look at what is around you.
You can often combine a short date while your child is being supervised in a sport’s club or other activity.
Don’t bemoan that lack of time for a date.
The first dates should be short.
That lets you get to know each other, and think about what you have gotten to know.
Here are some things to consider.
- What cafés are near your child’s supervised activities?
- Are there places you can meet that are near your work?
- Is there somewhere you could meet near where you do your errands?
- Reconsider the grocery store as a date venue
The last may seem the strangest but a single mom spends a large portion of her “hands-free” time in a grocery store.
In the 90s, many groups ran actual singles shopping nights.
It lets two people get to know each other, while doing something purposeful.
It also takes the stress out of finding time in your schedule for a first date too.
Create a Single Moms’ Club
Tyler Perry made a movie about it because it is a good idea.
If you are a single mom, chances are most of the other women you are encountering are single moms too.
Form a small group that can help with making dates happen by alternating who baby sits so that you can have a night free.
It doesn’t have to be “just like the movie,” what you are doing is building a network of women you know that you can make arrangements with to swap babysitting nights with, as well as combining efforts to help out with other things.
Go for lunches and not dinners
One way you can get very creative is to give up the idea of the night time date.
Face it, since your kids are in school during the day, the closer you can make your dates to those times the easier it will be for you.
There are many things you can do that are out of the standard date box –
- Go for dinner and not lunch (it’s cheaper too!)
- Go to a park or zoo, you will be surprised at how quiet it is and how wonderful it is to be out in the sun
- Go to a matinee
You can usually create the time in your schedule by shifting an hour or two later in the week so you can take more time off during the day every so often.
Make sure you have 2 nights a month that are all yours
Above all, you should try to do everything you can to make sure that you have 2 nights a month that are all yours.
Whether it means planning some sleepovers or making sure you have a babysitter – make sure it happens.
Just because you are a single mom doesn’t mean you have to wait until your child is old enough to stay alone to go out on a date.
There are many creative ways to plan dates if you’re a single mom that will make sure that you stay out and about to have a chance to meet someone wonderful and new.