So now you are going to meet.
After several weeks of talking online, you are off to meet for the first time.
One of the things you have to weight are the pros and cons of drinking alcohol on a first date with a guy you met online.
There are two sides to the debate, and you need to think about it carefully.
One quick tip – if the guy mentions in his profile or messages that he doesn’t drink – guess what?
The decision has been made for you.
He may be in recovery, or allergic, or he may have lost someone to an alcohol related disease and you don’t want to challenge that by drinking anyway.
The Pros of Drinking Alcohol on a First Date with a Guy You Met Online
There are some pros to drinking alcohol on your first date:
- It can help both of you relax.
- It can serve as a conversation starter (when did you first try the drink, what do you like?)
- And it can serve to highlight the taste of your food.
Drinking alcohol on a first date with a guy you met online means having a drink or two, getting hammered on the first date is not recommended at all.
The Cons of Drinking Alcohol on a First Date with a Guy You Met Online
There are a lot of cons when it comes to drinking alcohol on a first date with a guy you met online:
- Your inhibitions will be lowered.
- You may not be presenting your best side to him on a first date.
- You won’t really be tuning into his details.
- There is always the risk of something being put in your drink.
- You might get drunk.
Not to scare you, but there is a lot that can go wrong with this idea.
Why take a nerve racking act like a first date and make it more stressful?
The fact about alcohol is how it will affect you will depend a lot on how stressed you are and whether or not you have eaten; things can happen before you know it on a stressful date.
How do you know what to do?
A lot of the deciding comes down to what you know about yourself and how you handle alcohol.
You also have to pick up what you can determine about how he is about drinking.
A lot of guys don’t mind having drinks on the weekend or at a club, but they may not drink much when out at dinner.
One last consideration – the cost.
Drinking on the first date can really run up the bill and that is not very attractive, even if you go dutch.
Making sure that you stay safe
What the pros and cons of drinking alcohol on a first date with a guy you met online really concerns is how safe you can keep yourself when you have had something to drink.
There is more than just the worry that something might be slipped in your drink, that is a real worry but there are more.
You also want to make sure that stay clear headed enough to read his signals correctly, and to pay attention during your date.
You don’t want to put him off either, a lot of guys don’t like women who appear like they “have to drink” to enjoy themselves.
If you tend to have a glass of wine with dinner – go to a café that doesn’t serve it.
Remember that you will be just as nervous as he is, it’s a first date and you are supposed to be that way.