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When you go out with a woman on a first date there are tons of things that you should ask them to get to know them.
Unfortunately, most men choose to ask the questions that will give them a lot of details about the woman’s life, but don’t tell them very much about them as a person at all. These include questions like:
- How did you wind up doing what you do?
- Do you want kids?
- Where would you love to travel?
- What is your favorite sport or hobby?
These are all fine details, but they are more like a list of items in a room. You want to get to know the structure and integrity of the house that room is in. To do this, here are 7 questions you should ask every woman on a first date, and why they are important.
1. What is their favorite season?
This will tell you a lot about whether a woman is going to be physically active and outgoing, or want to stay more at home. How she describes her favorite season will give you insight into what she prefers to do.
2. When was the first movie they remember seeing?
This question tells you a lot about the person. Usually, the first movie you see (and remember as important) will help to shape who you are and what you value as an adult. Remembering a romance is going to mean quite different things in what a person wants out of life then remembering an action-adventure movie.
3. Who had the greatest influence on them?
This is a great one because it will also start to reveal what she values in life, and her whole sense of work and commitment. If she was influenced by a traveling gypsy, she will be a free spirit that may shy from putting down roots.
4. What do they like about people?
This is a very important question. You want to be with someone who likes other people, and who likes people in general. This can be a very important indicator of a person’s mental state too. You can like people, and not want to spend a lot of time around them – but liking people also means you recognize that they are just as valuable as you are – that is very important in a relationship.
5. What brings them the greatest joy?
Listen to this one, this will tell you much about her. Is what she describing something that is an action that she does, or an ideal she has?
6. Who do they admire?
Like the question about who was their greatest influence, this will tell you a lot about the kind of person she is on the inside. You want to follow this up with finding out what that admiration has prompted her to do or not do in life, that question can bring out a thoughtful and complex answer that will let you get to know her even more.
7. What would be her ideal second date?
Yes, this is a directly leading question, but if you aren’t asking this of every woman on a first date then it means you don’t want a second date with them. Women live and breathe by planning and knowing. This is also the best way to express your interest. Once you find out what it is, ask her if she would like to do that or something similar. Don’t ask this question if you don’t want a second date.